Single mom expects her 26-year-old sister to leave work 15 minutes into her shift so she can help watch her two children, sister refuses and sets strict boundaries: ‘I was yelled at and then hung up on’

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  • "AITA for refusing to leave work to help my family?"

    I (26 F) have a job that is fully remote which I am very thankful for! Last year my fiance and I bought a house 5 minutes from
  • our families. For context my sister (31 F) lives at home with my parents and is in and out of jobs at a rapid pace. My parents (69 F and 72 M) are retired and their only income is SSI.
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  • My sister is a single mom of 2 kids and one of the kids is possibly au tic, they are waiting on an evaluation to confirm. My sister is currently out of a job and fights with my father often.
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  • I try to help out where I can like occasionally picking one of the kids up from school, coming over on the weekend, etc. There was a time where I was almost acting as
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  • a second parent with how much I was helping but my fiance has helped me to recognize what is a normal family dynamic and try to stick to that.
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  • When I help out during the week it's after my assigned work is finished and I can make up time if I leave or count it as my lunch. (30 minutes) I try to only help out
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  • during the week if it is something that time away can be estimated so if it is over the time of lunch I can tell my manager and make up the time.
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  • I just got a call immediately asking for me to come over 15 minutes into my shift. There is fighting and the baby is not cooperating. I advised that I couldn't I'm at work and was yelled at and then hung up on.
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  • Where I may be TA: I called back and left a voicemail explaining my job is serious and if I am not showing up to my job I have grounds for termination. If I'm
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  • termed I don't have money to give and then they will be f ed. I said I'm not sure where you got the notion that I can always leave but I can't bend over at God's will.
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  • AITA for refusing and doubling down?
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  • MedicinalWalnuts NTA. You need to work to pay your own bills and help out with theirs. They should understand that. If possible, you need to have stronger boundaries to protect yourself from the bottomless pit of these financial and emotional vampires.
  • Lucky-Effective-1564 Moving 5 mins away was a BIG mistake. Enforce your rules and block their phones during working hours.
  • Ecstatic_Possible_70 nta. Only when someone is safe and secure might they think about helping others or don't set yourself on fire to keep others warm.
  • KateFostery Nope, NTA at all. You've got a full-time job, not an on-call button for family chaos. You're already doing more than most would, and they're mad you won't risk your job? Be serious. You set a boundary and they didn't like it-that's on them, not you.
  • Alternative-Copy7027 This attitude is possibly why your sister can't keep a job. Don't be like your sister.
  • Tablessssssss NTA but it seems your family is becoming dependent and entitled for your help, you need to set boundaries and only help outside of your work hours.
  • SavingsRhubarb8746 NTA. So many people seem to think that working at home means not really working, and you can take time off whenever you want as you've said this is - not the case. Your family needs to learn to understand that when you're at work, you're not available to solve their problems.
  • I think your voicemail was quite reasonable under the circumstances, and you might in addition lay down a rule that you will not accept texts or calls, or check your voicemail, during work hours. If they have a problem they cannot handle during that period, they should call emergency services instead of you.
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  • I'd expect that, after an initial period of trying to get you to respond during work hours, they'll figure out how to deal with the fights and the baby without actually involving emergency services.
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